It was in the process of discussing hair issues that I gathered all this. That is how natural hair can be a unifying force.
I’ve met her husband once or twice, and I know my face is familiar to him, but he probably wouldn’t be able to place it anytime he sees me.
My neighbour works in an oil company, and there was a time they posted her to work on a project in a nearby African country. She had the opportunity to come home once a month. After a year, she came back home, and three months later, she was posted to work on another project in a farway African country.
This was the time her husband started protesting, saying she should find a way to sort it out, and she wasn’t going anywhere. She was still in the begging phase when she confided in me. She has been married for almost 5 years without a child, and they are not happy about it even though she’s flying high in her career. And they both think these postings would even jeopardise their chances further.
Anyway, I don’t think she went on that posting. I believe she took a long leave, went to do a short course abroad, and came back.
Two weeks ago, I went to their compound which houses multiple flats, on a particular day when I didn’t go to work. Her husband works from home, while she is a 9-5 person. He was walking out with a lady.
My first reaction was to mentally exclaim that he was sleeping with her. I was thinking “heeey, come and see american wonder. My friend’s husband is sleeping with another woman. Should I report him to her?”
What if someone told me they saw Dimeji walking out of his house with a lady? Does that mean he is cheating? Definitely not, so I put myself in my female neighbour’s shoes.
Even after all the excuses I have made for him, I am still suspecting him. But then, I guess the only reason why I was suspecting the guy is because his wife had previously told me about their struggles with all the ladies on his case. I think I have to be careful about what I listen to. If she hadn’t told me anything, I probably would be here, burdened with the task of over-analysis.