Monday, 27 June 2016

Diary of an Honest Naturalista: Week 160

How to get a man to propose… That’s been the topic on my mind for a very long time now. I have been living in denial for a very long time now, but if I must say the truth, it still matters to me. The last time I let this get to me, and was focusing on what I don’t have, instead of the blessing Dimeji is to me, it landed me in hot peppersoup, by making my affections wander.

But still…

I still want what I want.

After our last major issue, that strongly rocked the boat of our relationship, things have been going really great for us, as I have come to realise that it’s either Dimeji or no one for me, and he also sees it the same way from his side.

The tone of our conversations have already taken a more serious turn. Yes, we used to talk about our marriage before, but now, our plans are becoming more definitive. Talking about stakeholders, who to see, what premarital activities need to be fleshed out, and putting possible timelines along with it.

But still…

There’s no formal proposal yet.

I know that some people would say it doesn’t matter, since dates and actions are already rolling in, and we are already toeing the path.

But still…

I still want what I want.

So one day, I tried bringing it up with him… in style. It was in the middle of a conversation

“So when we go to see Pastor ABC, and Aunty XYZ, I would ask my mum about other people she thinks are important to honour with the information. I’m just sceptical about asking her because she might now start lording her opinions over us.” Dimeji was saying.

“Sweetheart… Ehn this one that we have started talking about formally meeting people…” I started cautiously

“Okay…” Dimeji slowed down, knowing something was coming.

“I’m just saying!”

“Saying what?”

“I’m just saying… that we need to do things in the right order.” I said as a matter of fact.

“Babe, I don’t understand. Can you just come out and say what you are to trying to tell me in plain English.”

I paused for a very long time before proceeding. “Sweetheart, I don’t think I would be comfortable going to introduce us to family members on both sides, telling them we are planning to get married without getting a formal proposal and an engagement ring from you.” I said as plainly as possible without being forceful or rude about it.

“Okay, I have heard.” He said flatly, without emotions.

“You have heard?” I replied questioningly, with doubt written all over my face.

“Yes, I have heard.”

I kept looking with scepticism.

Oprah sees right through your bullshit
“So are you going to do it before we start going out to meet people?” I asked.

“Please don’t put pressure on me, Anna.” He snapped. “You have spoken your mind, and I said I have heard. Leave whether I am going to do it to me.”

And with that, I decided to wisen up, and just forget it.

It’s been a while since we had that conversation, but still nothing has come up. I even started to despise it, so I wouldn’t expect too much. If he likes, he should eat his ring, and proposal. I will keep lying to myself that I don’t care.

But still…

I still want what I want.

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Saturday, 25 June 2016

How to Properly Apply Products To Natural Hair

Today is hair washing day for my daughters. I always seize that opportunity to give them hands-on lessons on caring for their hair. Knowing how to properly apply products to natural hair is something that is often overlooked.  Even as a Youtube beauty content creator, I notice areas of hair lacking products when it is applied to the hair.

Here is how I taught my daughters how to apply products.

Working in sections ensures that all strands of the hair gets the product. If you have thicker hair, this is essential because most of the time, if you just section your hair into four, and apply without further separating, you will find that overtime, some areas of your hair will not benefit from the hair treatment.

When applying products, start working from the ends of the hair, and then apply towards the roots. This is because the ends of the hair are the most fragile parts. When nutrients are supplied to the hair, it starts from the roots and works its way down to the ends. Depending on the length of the hair, the nutrients will be lacking when it reaches that point, hence why your ends feel drier than the rest of your hair.

What other ways can you apply products? Please share in the comment area.
 Stay beautiful! 💖

If you like this blog post written by Sola of DiscoveringNatural, you can find her on her Youtube channel, DiscoveringNatural,  for more natural hair tips. Click here to visit her channel.

Friday, 24 June 2016

Things to Consider Before Trying a Shampoo Bar

Hiya everyone! It's FriYAY!!!

Hope we are having a lovely one at that.

Last week I gave you 10 good reasons to try a shampoo bar. Knowing me, I want you to get the whole picture before trying something new. So this week we are talking about some of the things you should think about before exploring the world of shampoo bars. Let's dive in!

There may be tangles from having to rub the bar into your hair. You can easily remedy this by dissolving the bar in some water to liquify it. You can also wash your hair in sections.

Another drawback is that the oils can give the soap a waxy nature that tends to leave a waxy layer on your strands. When the soap reacts with water it can cause a waxy film which will build up over time. Again the solution to this is to follow up with an apple cider vinegar rinse to eradicate build up and enhance shine. It will also rid you of a coated feeling you may experience. Just a side note, so far in my experience with my shampoo bar, I haven't had this waxy coating / feel to my hair yet. However I did notice this symptom when I used black soap consistently for some time. I just made it a point to clarify regularly enough.

Also, having to rub the soap into your scalp and hair may cause some build up. If not rinsed out properly this will result in dry flakes and itchy scalp. Always rinse well, and follow up with an apple cider vinegar rinse every second wash or so, just to ensure that your scalp is free. In the alternative, you can always liquify it instead. You will still reap the benefits of an all-natural shampoo bar.

Some can be high foam and easy to lather, which means that it easily dissolves once exposed to water. So keep it dry as much as possible, or cut off the amount you will need for your wash in order to preserve it.

All in all, I still think the pros outweigh the cons, and in any event the simple solutions i've provided can counteract to the disadvantages.

 Are you for or against shampoo bars? Comment below!

Simple Hairstyle for Natural Hair

A few weeks ago, I was in lovely London for a holiday with my family. During our stay there, we were invited to Afternoon Tea, which is traditionally very fancy. I had my outfit picked out a week beforehand, but had no clue what to do with my hair. On the morning of the event, I still hadn't decided, so I whipped up something simple in a matter of minutes. I think it's very easy to replicate and can work on short (not TWA) to long natural hair.

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What I did basically was to part my hair in front, and I rolled, tucked and pinned both sides towards the back of my head. To keep the hair down at the back, I also used only bobby pins.

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What do you think of the style? Could you replicate it?

Have a lovely weekend!
Berry Dakara.

Wednesday, 22 June 2016

Can I Touch Your Hair?

Hi Naturalistas,

How is the week going?
So I came across a post few days ago about naturals allowing or not letting people touch their hair?

To me, I really don't mind. Infact, I'd be happy to let you touch my hair 'cause I have done it before. As far as you ask before doing so, I don't have a problem with that.

Do you let people touch your hair or is it a no-no for you? And why

Let me know what you think? Share in the comment box


Tuesday, 21 June 2016

2 reasons I am changing my Natural hair Regimen

Hello Naturalistas,

How are you all? Kinks and all?

When I started my Natural Hair Journey, all I knew was shampoo and conditioning and that is all I did to my hair. I started researching and reading alot I discovered co-washing. My natural hair regimen revolved around this.

Fast forward a year and plenty internet rounds later, I started doing the deep condition. When I started doing the deep condition, it was a very messy process but after the results I got, the decision was made and this was incorporated into my regimen. I have not changed it since then, all I do is Deep condition, shampoo and condition, Tea rinse (Sometimes) in that order.
I don't know where I got the idea that it was to be in that order but I must have read it somewhere and frankly it's been working just fine for my hair, until recently.

My hair just seems different and drier after I condition it. So, I am changing my regimen and here are 2 reasons why;

There is no hard and and fast rule; I obviously know this but for some funny reason I have just sat in my comfort zone for this regimen as a 'rule' for my hair. The feeling I got from my hair was a wake up call that I could actually change whatever doesn't work for my hair anymore.

I need to do what works for my hair per-time; The key word here being per-time. I also need to understand that it is what works for my hair and not just anything I read off the internet. I should be willing to try, stick with what works and shuffle it all around per-time.

I am still in the process of "trying again"and will let you know how it goes.

Have you ever gotten to a point where it seemed like your regimen needed to change? What changes did you make? Let's know your experience. 

Monday, 20 June 2016

Diary of an Honest Naturalista: Week 159

So now that I can’t fulfil my fantasies of going to the US anymore, I’m seriously considering travelling to one of the tourist places in Nigeria. I’ve never really been a traveller, and have always been limited to my own locality. I just always assumed all that would change once I become rich. I’m beginning to rethink this because one, the riches aren’t flying in as swiftly as I thought, and secondly, it’s a good habit to cultivate before one becomes ‘rich’, and can be tailored one to the money available.

My annual leave is actually starting next month, and I have been looking forward to it. I called Dimeji to discuss with him, and he said his parents are also thinking of travelling to one of the getaway resorts in Nigeria, and it would be a good idea if I tag along.

It sounded like a very great idea to me at first, but I started rethinking and dialling back for many reasons.

1. a one week holiday with his family might paint me as irresponsible, after all, we are not officially married, or even engaged for that matter.

2. See finish factor might set in, and they won’t see me as that ‘flower’ or ‘jewel’ their son’s about to gain.

3. His mum would have the opportunity and time to sit me down, and audit my Ankara hair accessory business, which frankly, I haven’t  been very serious with. When she finds out, she would scold me badly, then give me a one hour lecture on how to correct the errors of my ways

Bruce Warns
4. There would be too much time to fantasise about Dimeji’s beautiful brother with so much hair, and I would be tempted to start comparing him to the love of my life whose balding potential, we recently discovered.

The more I think about it, the more I think it’s not a great idea to go on vacation with my boyfriend’s family, no matter how short. I have never gone for one in my life, and if I don’t go this year, I won’t die.

Hairstyle Lounge on African Naturalistas - Style for Stage

Hello ladies, it feels like ages ago since we were here.

All my weeks have been tied up in making my event a reality. Even the hairstyle for this edition was tied to the event.

So I went to the salon to take down the thread in this edition. Gosh, I rocked that hairstyle for 5 whole weeks, and it wasn't even that rough when I took it down. The whole world was screaming for me to remove it because it had stayed long on my head.

I purposely left it that long so I could have a fresh hairstyle for the event.

Off to the salon I went, to take down the style which had been on my hair for ages. Because of how long the hair had stayed, we had to detangle thoroughly with African Naturalistas Moisturising and Detangling conditioner.

We went on to wash with a medicated shampoo, to make sure my scalp was in good condition, and followed it up with a regular shampoo. After this, we proceeded to steam with African Naturalistas Deep Conditioning Mayonnaise.

Omozo came in by this time, and we chose a style. I wanted a frohawk for the stage because I was avoiding any hairstyle that was too dressy, while Omozo wanted Puffy thread, so we agreed to combine the two.

One hour thirty minutes later, this was the result

I didn't want a front view picture because my face was mega oily.

Four days later, I wore the hair to the press conference of my event. I was surprised that it was still that neat, considering its frizzy nature.

And then the next day (five days later), I wore the hair for the purpose it was created.

My hair popping on stage

The next day, we had an after party for my fellow committee members and I rocked the hair again.

Yes, the hair served its purpose. Even though the event is over, and it's almost 2 weeks ago I did the hair, I haven't taken it down yet. See how it currently looks on my head.

I will carry it for one more week before taking it down.

Do you like this style? If yes, what about it do you like? What are your thoughts about frohawk combined with the dressy feel of Puffy Thread? Lemme have your thought in the comment section.

Hairstyle Lounge was brought to you by O'Naturals Salon. No money exchanged hands in making this lounge a reality. To make your hair at O'Naturals, visit the salon at 54 Ogudu road, Ogudu-Ojota Lagos or book an appointment by calling 0818-802-4444 / 0815-802-4444.

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