Monday, 1 September 2014

13 Things husbands and boyfriends of every naturalista should know

She will look like a white garment church prophetess anytime she is at home
It’s not her fault. She just cannot afford hair damage, or sacrifice the health of her hair at the altar of beauty. She knows that as long as she can keep her hair healthy, you will be the main beneficiary of the compliment whenever you are with her in public, so indulge her, and let her wear that ugly satin bonnet when she is at home!

She will make many friends while you are in public with her
She has natural hair! This means she will make at least 10 automatic friends for every time you go out with her, and that is the least. Natural girls love to hail their own, and strike instant conversations. It comes with the territory, so try to deal with it.

You will need to save her from the hair-touching ninjas
People will try to touch her hair, both strangers and known faces. It is your duty to draw out your sword and cut off any wandering fingers trying to hover around her hair. Only one person is allowed to touch her hair, and you my friend, have that great privilege, so protect your territory, man.

She will take over your whole closet, and some more
Her materials will be in the bathroom, kitchen, fridge, wardrobe, car, every single place you can think of. So just get ready, and when you see it happen, don’t bother complaining.

Just because it looks edible does not mean it is to be eaten
Yes we know that pudding in the bowl looks and smells yummy. It is a mixture of banana smoothie, mayonnaise, honey, avocado, yoghurt, etc. But stop… don’t try to eat it. It might have laden with some less-desirable things like Aloe vera, nettle, etc. You eat any strange yet inviting mix at your own risk. Don’t day you were not warned.

She will take over the fridge
You will see strange things like preserved DC, Aloe vera, coconut milk, etc. The fridge will be full, and it won’t be with things for you and your buddies, your children, or even for cooking. Don’t question her. Her hair comes first.

Seeing strands of hair everywhere you go will become the norm
You will see black wisps of hair on your pillow, in your car, in the bathroom, kitchen, everywhere you can imagine, even on your shirt… in office… while making a presentation in front of the 50-man management team. Just take care not to start dusting them off, in case the fly into the tea cup of the CEO.

You might not recognise her sometimes, but trust me, she's the one
Forgive her hair. It decided to do a 90% shrinkage today, due to the fact that she mistakenly added too much glycerine to her daily spritz, and was not even aware of it. Even though her hair was long to the middle of her back yesterday, believe her when she tells you she did not take a pair of scissors to the hair. And don’t try to imagine what she would look like tomorrow. You would only set yourself up for failure.

Your friends would either love her or not. No middle ground!
Get ready for statements like “Your hair looks gorgeous” and “What is this bird’s nest you are carrying on your head” from your friends, whenever you take your natural other half out. It comes with the territory of dating a naturalista

Be ready to defend her hair decisions, whether you understand them or not
When your mother, siblings, friends, or enemies tell you or her to go get her hair done because she looks like a mad woman, be ready to speak up for her immediately, even if you completely agree with them. Don’t wait for her to remind you, by pinching you under the table. This would really do wonders for your love bank, as a woman would do anything for a man she knows has her back

Familiarise yourself with safe ingredients
We know many ladies are impressed when their men buy them things that are actually useful. To impress your natural other half, don’t just think you can buy her any product you assume is for natural hair, out there. You need to know what ingredients are safe for her, and that her hair loves. Failure to do this would resort in you having the products all over your bald head.

Be ready to hear and learn a lot of natural hair lingo
When she calls you up to tell you she needs you to get to the mall because she has to do an ACV rinse or moisturising DC, do you know what she means? As a lover of a naturalista, you have to be very familiar and willing to keep up with the various natural hair lingoes out there ranging from APL, BSL, to DC, sulphate-free, silicone, etc.

BHD is the new PMS
Whenever you natural other half is in a bad mood, don’t just attribute it to PMS, as most men do. I tell you, it is most-likely due to the fact that she couldn’t achieve that gorgeous flat twists and twists out she saw on her favourite youtube idol. Just give her space and time, and don’t worry. A simple afro puff and a great compliment from you will vaporise the bad mood all away.

So there it is. I hope you enjoyed it. Send this link to every boyfriend, fiancee, husband, or even toaster of every naturalista you know.

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Sunday, 31 August 2014

Real Life Natural Hair Talks: Would you make your man's Natural hair?

Hi Naturalistas
Last time when we had these talks, it got a little touchy. Check it here if you missed it.
The idea is just to discuss what happens in reality and I really do not mind a collection of opinions.
It is not about saying what is better, should be or not be. It is just about those things that do really happen. 


Today's topic might head in that direction as well because it is quite related. However, I am really hoping that everyone sees this with an open mind and it doesn't really need to turn into an argument. Share your opinions and try to see what you can pick from others, if you can't just let them, please.

Today we'll be talking about when your man needs you to make his hair. 
I know it can be fun to spend a relaxing weekend making his hair. I would especially love it. It feels like a nice way to spend time together. I'm already loving the thought of it :) 

However, let's not forget this can feel like a job. Seriously, would you mind?
Or would you be like "he can keep his hair, as long as he doesn't bother me with it?"
What's your take? 

Saturday, 30 August 2014

Do you use Silicone-based Products for your Natural Hair?

By DiscoveringNatural
Do you know that there are different types of silicones; water soluble, deposit repelling silicones, and non-water soluble?

Water soluble silicones can be easily washed away and still provide the benefits of using -cones in hair. Eg: Stearoxy Dimethicone, Dimethicone Copolyol, silicone with PEG or PPG as a prefix, Lauryl Methicone Copolyol

Deposit Repelling silicones slow down the build up process. Eg: Trimethylsilylamodimethicone, Amodimethicone, Cyclopentasiloxane, Cyclomethicone

Non-Water soluable silcones cannot be easily washed away. They can cause build up and need sulfate shampoos to remove. Example: Dimethicone,
Trimethylsilylamodimetheicone, Phenyl Trimethicone, Cetearyl Methicone, Dimethiconol, Stearyl Dimethicone, Cetyl Dimethicone

Why is Silicone GOOD for Natural Hair?
Silicone can help you minimize frizz and also help in detangling your hair. Some naturals use it as a way to seal in the moisture into their hair. It acts as a great sealant. As a heat protectant, silicones protects the hair from extreme heat. It also know to help hair dry quicker, provide deep conditioning to damaged areas, and strengthen hair.

Why is Silicones BAD for Natural Hair?
In the case of non-water soluble silicones, it can cause product build up, if care is not taken to properly cleanse the product out of your hair. Even with water soluble silicones, if used overtime without cleansing or rinsing off hair, you could still experience build up. Since excess build up can only be removed with a sulfate or clarifying shampoo, this can cause dryness in hair. This dryness can lead to breakage. Because silicones are also sealants, re-moisturizing hair can be a challenge if you are moisturizing on top of the silicone seal. It is best to not use silicones in conditioners. Why? A great conditioner only needs emollients, humectants, moisturizers and... proteins.

Do you use SILICONES in your child's hair? If not, why don't you use SILICONES?

Friday, 29 August 2014

Herbal Party Series: HIBISCUS

Hey everyone,

Sorry for the break last week. Moving right along today, if you just joined us, some weeks ago, we announced that several powders/herbs are available on the African Naturalistas store. (FYI quite a few are actually sold out now). And I was excited to see that too, but then when I clicked on the post, I was a trifle confused because I didn't know what 75% of them were, how they're used and what their benefits are. I know there's at least someone out there who's in the same boat, so we've started a series with a focus on all the herbs posted, so that we can learn a thing or two.

We've learned about Amla, Shikakai and Neem so far, and today we have HIBISCUS on the lineup!


According to Wikipedia, it comes from the family Malvaceae, and the plant is native to warm-temperate, subtropical and tropical climates around the world. It has many different species and varieties and comes in a plethora of colors, but the one we're most interested in today is the red-colored flower. Hibiscus is used for many different things, such as food, tea and it's also the main component of Zobo drink here in Nigeria.

Hibiscus powder is used in Ayurvedic practice, and is thought to have many benefits such as
  1. Encourages hair growth by stimulating circulation
  2. Discourages split ends
  3.  Prevents pre-mature greying of the hair strands
  4. Thickens hair
  5. A mild cleanser that helps with toxin elimination
  6. A great hair color/dye for natural hair especially in combination with henna (points culled from here)
You can also mix hibiscus powder with other powders, including amla, henna (like Lola did), or even in your tea rinse! It's that great.

Please be advised that hibiscus powder is red and it can stain your bathtub or shower, so be careful with application, and make sure to rinse or wash off your tub and hands as soon as you're done. Lola wrote about her experience with henna and hibiscus here and had red palms for 2 weeks.

Also, from what I've read, if you're looking to have that red color, hibiscus alone won't do it - you'll have to mix it with henna. I think it's something I might try in the future. Nappily Nigerian Girl used hers as a conditioning rinse.

To use hibiscus powder in your natural hair treatment, mix it with oils and/or other powders of your choice and form a paste. Massage the paste into your scalp and wait for a while (at least 30 minutes) before rinsing off. You can cover with a plastic cap and sit under a steamer too. Make sure it's all rinsed off COMPLETELY.

Lola with henna and hibiscus mix on her natural hair
You can learn more about Hibiscus for Natural Hair in the following video. 

Remember, try new things on a small section of hair first to ensure that you don't have any negative reactions.

You can order Hibiscus powder and others from the African Naturalistas store.

Have a nice weekend!

Thursday, 28 August 2014

Finghair Tips Thursday: Nourishment

Defining Your Curls With Perm Rods

Hello ladies!

Last time, I showed you how you can achieve defined curls with flexi rods. Today, I'm gonna be talking about perm rods also known as roller sets. One of the best things about perm rods is that they can be used on any hair length. From TWA to medium length to big 'fro. All you need is

  • Perm rods according to your hair length
  • Leave-in conditioner/hair spritz
  • Hair butter
  • Styling lotion
  • Gel/Pudding
Or whatever products you use to moisturize and give hold

  • Prep your hair by washing and conditioning if you haven't previously
  • Apply leave-in or hair spritz to moisturize
  • Slather gel, pudding or styling lotion
  • Put your hair in sections
  • Work each rod round your hair until you've gone round your head
  • Leave to dry overnight preferably or under a dryer
  • Unravel rods
  • Style as desired
If you're stuck, this might help

Has anyone tried perm sets before? 

How did it turn out?

What combination of products did you use for hold?

Love,knots and kinks

Wednesday, 27 August 2014

"I'm tall, so I felt that short hair won't suit me." Mane matters with Mabel Alubo

Good Morning Naturalistas,

We bring to you today Mabel.. Enjoy!

AN:Can you tell us who you are and what you do?

I'm Mabel Alubo and I'm a final year microbiology student.

AN: What's your thoughts about natural hair?

I love natural hair! It's so versatile and beautiful. 

AN: Why did you decide to go natural?

I've cut my hair over 6 times before. No relaxer was good for my hair, I used to have no edges, bald patches and extreme breakage.

AN: Did you do a BC or you transitioned?

I BC'd 17 months ago because my hair was badly damaged.

 AN: Any fears about the BC?

Yes! I'm tall so I felt that short hair won't suit me.

 AN: What has your experience been?

The experience has been very educative. I've found that my research on healthy hair has lead me to learning healthy habits as well. I love experimenting with different styles also.


AN: What was/is your biggest fear about going Natural?

I love weaves and I love the look of leaving my hair out on weaves. I was sad that I wouldn't be able to do that any more without my hair being long and without using heat. I also didn't feel comfortable going to school with my naps because people always have stuff to say

AN: Do you think you are in it for the long haul or is it just a phase?

Definitely for the long haul! For me it's about having healthy hair. I'm tired of starting over. I don't mind regular trims as long as my hair stays healthy.

 AN: Do you have any hair regimen you stick to? 

Not really. I always switch it up and add something that my hair seems to agree with. I spritz and moisturise using the L.O.C (Liquid/Leave-in/ Oil/ Cream) method. Sometimes L.C.O seals on moisture better for me too. I co-wash about every 3 days when my hair is not in a protective style because I style with gel alot. I also deep condition weekly and do the inversion scalp massage every month for 7 days.


AN: What's your go-to protective style?

I love all kinds of braids! Box, yarn, marley, faux locs and I love weaves. 

 AN: What's your must have product and accessory?

Cantu leave-in conditioning cream. Must have accessory is a shoelace (for afro puffs) LOL. And a flower crown

 AN: What's your advice to anyone planning to ditch relaxers?

Just do it! BC incase you get tempted to change your mind. Lol. Or make sure you are certain it is what you want. Love your hair and keep it healthy, there's a difference between healthy hair and just natural hair.

Thank you for your time.

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Tuesday, 26 August 2014

I Relaxed my friends' hair! Gasp!!!

Happy Tuesday Ladies! Today has been a very humbling experience in my Natural Hair Journey. I have had to come to terms that, as much as I would love to, I have no say in the choices others make in regards to how they choose to wear their own hair! So with my head hung down in shame, I give you this video...

Monday, 25 August 2014

Diary of an Honest Naturalista: Week 64

I can’t believe it is almost a year since I started my NYSC at this ministry. Soon, it will be over. I can’t tell if I will miss Madam Adams when that time comes, but I am sure I wouldn’t want to work with her for longer than necessary. I know I will miss Tonya. She will most-likely be returning to the States to continue with her life. She has never really lived in Nigeria, and it still baffles me that she came here, just for the purpose of serving. I’m praying she decides to stay back, though I’m not sure how she will be able to cope here for long term.

In other news, there’s one guy I want to hook Tonya up with. He really likes her, and definitely not going to knock off her natural hair. Even though he doesn’t seem to be in the same financial class as Felix, he is definitely not a jerk. Basically, we served together in camp, but he was in a different platoon, and we were not really close. We got closer when we were both posted to the secretariat, but he is in Ministry of Works.

I actually took more note of him when he started complimenting me about my hair whenever we went for clearance, and a light friendship developed from there. I think he’ll be very cool for Tonya, knowing both of them pretty well, but here are the factors giving rise to my dilemma.

Tonya doesn’t seem to have totally gotten over Felix
I am not sure if she will stay back in Nigeria, when she finally makes up her mind
They are not in the same social class

To be honest, I really like the idea of them together, but how I am going to pull this one off really beats me.

The guy has claimed his undying love for her, and begged me to just put in a good word for him, because he feels Tricia doesn’t even know he exists. But at this point I don’t know what to do. I really need advice.

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Detangling natural hair with ease

Today's post is a feature brought to us by Chidinma of That Nigerian Girl. She gives us her top tried and tested tips on detangling natural hair.

It has occurred to me that the reason why some people don't see any growth is because of breakage, not because of the hair isn't growing but because you don't know how to separate the weed from the crops in this case the dead hair from the living ones. So I have decided to do this post and give tips on how to prevent hair lose. This tip also goes for my guys who are trying to maintain a fro.

1) Always take out braids with conditioner. What's the point of conditioner? To condition hair, what does conditioned hair fell like? Soft, easy to manage. When taking out braids, make sure to spray the particular braid with A LOT of water, then put a lot of conditioner, but make sure it is cheap conditioner you wouldn't miss if it finishes. Now the key here is to take your time, don't rush because that's one road so many ladies have taken and discovered the hard way it leads to breakage.

2) If you have time, and not much hair then finger detangle is your best friend, but if like me you don't have time plus have isi madu ito like my mother says (three peoples hair, as in my hair is combination of three people's hair.) your best bet would be a paddle brush. Trust me on this one, I lose so much hair with wide tooth comb compared to paddle brush. Also take your time here this is where you should do all your detangling because here is where you would take off dead hair that you would later count as hair lose in the bathroom.

3) Please, please please and please, wash your hair in one direction, which is backwards. Do not rub, do not mix, do not do any thin that will retangle your hair that is double work. So use your favourite sulphate free shampoo, condition, then deep condition, then wash, all in one direction. Another thing is please do not detangle your hair in the bathroom, all you are doing is simply waste of time. When you come out you will also detangle and you also end up tangling your hair. Just section your hair off, after washing each section put it back in twist.

4) Another mistake people make here is rubbing their hair with their towels or rather trying to reduce the water, after you take out the towel what do you see, big patches of tangle. Just simple put the towel on your hair like you are tying a scarf, bring one end of the towel to opposite side, and do same to the other side then pin it together. This is mainly for people whose hair isn't long enough for twist, they make this mistake the most.

5) Again with your paddle brush, begin at the root and gently work your way up, put your leave in conditioner and hair moisturizer and after each section retwist to make the work easier. After each section you can now style as desire, maybe twisting, or braiding, or straightening, you name it the main thing is detangling right in order to prevent hair lose.

Have you ever tried this method? how do you like it, is it more time consuming than your formal routine?. If you have other tips for us please share. Plus if you know someone who still makes this mistakes, share this with them, let us save self esteems one fro at a time lool.

Chidinma's hair
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Sunday, 24 August 2014

Naturallure Spotlight: Bryan Okwara

Today's spotlight is on Bryan Okwara.
Bryan is a Nigerian model and actor. He won the Mr. Nigeria 2007 and has since moved on to acting along side music video cameos.
I was trying so hard to find pictures where all the attention would be concentrated on his hair and none on his nice body, but it was so hard. It is what it is, Bryan is one fine man. Sorry ladies, I can understand if you drool, I tried to help but it was just too hard.
I know some people are saying "Thank God she didn't succeed" :)






Hope he inspired you to love your hair more?
Remember to keep your heads high and rock your kinks with pride

Twitter/Instagram: @janylbenyl

Saturday, 23 August 2014

Teaching Kids How To Care For Their Natural Hair : Detangling

Teaching Kids How to Care For Natural Hair
Since my older daughter, known as Big Sis, did a video where she did her entire Wash Day routine by herself, I have been getting questions from parents asking me how to teach kids how to care for their own natural hair.

It is important to know that one has to take baby steps so as to avoid frustration. Big Sis has been showing a lot of interest in caring for her own hair about a year ago. She learnt how to braid hair using the method below:

I was happy when she informed me that she would love detangle her own hair. Well! My little 8 year old is turning into a fine natural GAL! As she watched the Detangling video from our Natural Kids Hair Care playlist, she followed the steps so accurately.

She first started by finger detangling a small section...

Next, she used the wide tooth comb to further detangle that section

Lastly, she twisted up the detangled section

I was shocked as to how well she did.

Now, let's talk

Once our children start to show an interest in caring for their hair, we need to foster that interest. How long will we be the sole care-taker of their hair?  Once, they leave the house, would they have to delegate the care of their hair to someone else? Don't be afraid of letting your kids touch their hair. Of course, don't start off with teaching them to trim their hair... instead, start with something small. For us, something small was detangling, for you it may be something else.

Do you let your kids do their own hair? At what age did you start?

Thursday, 21 August 2014

Finghair Tips Thursday: Nourishment

Defining Your Natural Hair Curls With Flexi Rods

Hi ladies!

One of the easiest ways to achieve flawless defined curls without heat on your natural hair is through flexi rods or what Nigerians call, bendy rollers. As long as your hair is long enough, it's really very easy. All you need is

  • Flexi rods. Depending on your hair length
  • Leave-in conditioner/ Hair spritz
  • Shea butter
  • Gel/Curl pudding
Or whatever it is you use to moisturize and give hold

  • On a dry/damp washed and conditioned hair, apply your leave-in evenly or spray your hair with your hair spritz
  • Slather your hair with gel/curl pudding
  • Section your hair
  • Work each sections around the flexi rods until you've gone round your hair
  • Leave to dry. overnight preferably or under a dryer
  • Remove the rods
  • Style your hair as desired.

Some inspiration that might help

This is such easy, stress-free style that can last for up to a week if properly maintained.

Anyways, what do you think of flexi rods? Have you or do you use it?

What combination of products do you use for hold?

Love, kinks and knots

Wednesday, 20 August 2014

"I have learned that shrinkage means I have healthy hair" Mane matters with Theodora Olumekor

Hello Naturalistas,

On this episode of Mane matters we bring you the beautiful Dora. Enjoy. 


AN:Can you tell us who you are and what you do?

My name is Theodora Olumekor. I am a final year law student at Obafemi Awolowo University.

AN: What's your thoughts about natural hair?

My thoughts about natural hair are that it's beautiful, it's a wonderful experience worth exploring.
Relaxed Hair

AN: Why did you decide to go natural?

I decided to go natural around June 2013, after I saw a picture of @Naptural85’s hair on Instagram. Her hair was so beautiful and I just decided not to relax my hair because my last retouch was January 2013. I did my research, asked questions and my hair is naturally soft so that made my decision easier. 

AN: Did you do a BC or you transitioned?

I did both. I transitioned for 15 months and cut off all the relaxed ends April 2014. 
While transitioning...

AN: What was your transitioning experience like?
Transitioning was difficult because the relaxed ends just tangle up into knots when I wash and it took a whole lot of patience not to just cut it off. Let's just say my natural hair journey has taught me a lot about patience. 

AN: Any fears about the BC?
No, I had no fears about BC. I have cut my hair several times before so I had no fears at all.

AN: What has your experience been?

The experience so far has been AMAZING. I learn something about my hair everyday. What it likes, what products it likes, what oils it likes. My hair shrinks a lot. The shrinkage is so much one would think my hair is trying to hide from something when water touches it but I have learned that it means I have healthy hair. It has been an amazing experience and I am enjoying it.
AN: What was/is your biggest fear about going Natural?

My biggest fear about going natural was that I would not have the patience or the time to take care of my hair.

AN: Do you think you are in it for the long haul or is it just a phase?

I am definitely in this for the long haul
Twist-fro hawk

AN: Do you have any hair regimen you stick to?
Yes I do. I wash 3 times a month. Once with shampoo and twice with conditioner I.e co washing. I pre-poo before I shampoo. An ACV rinse once a month and a protein treatment twice a month. I also do a moisture treatment of water, glycerin and coconut oil everyday. This is mixed in my spray bottle.

AN: Whats your go-to protective style? 
Braids: Box braids or marley braids
Protective style

AN: There are people that definitely have negative comments about you hair, how do you deal with that?
That used to happen a lot but I just tell them it's my hair and I love it

AN: Whats your must have product and accessory?

My must have product is the Cantu Shea Butter Leave in Conditioner and accessory has to be my Bobbi pins and hair band. 
Wash and go

AN: Whats you advice to anyone planning to ditch relaxers?

My advice is if you want to go natural, do it for you, do it because you want to not because you think everybody is doing it. Do your research and be ready to accept most importantly your natural curls. Your hair cannot be bone straight again so don't treat your hair like its bone straight. Be ready to embrace your curls because they are beautiful. 
defined curls 

Thank you for your time.

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